Welcome Cecilia Tan who talks BDSM and Slow Seduction

BDSM is the hot thing nowadays, in romance and in the lives of people being inspired by the romances they read. Believe me I think that's a good thing. I've been a BDSM activist and educator for over 20 years. 

I've also been writing erotica, love stories, and romance for just as long and have always seen my erotic fiction as a way to spread the word about BDSM. 50 Shades of Grey got a lot of criticism because Christian Grey's kinky nature is explained away as him being "damaged," and the BDSM is something that he and Anastasia grow away from as he is "healed" by her love. While I think healing love is a perfectly good topic for a romance, and while there are some people who are drawn to BDSM as a way to wrestle with their own past traumas, this is far from most couple's experiences with kink.

Exploring power exchange fantasies is exciting. It's arousing to many. Even role-play scenarios we don't think of as particularly "BDSM," like say the naughty nurse or "doctor's office" scene, have elements of power exchange in them: the doctor is in control when he or she is telling us to get undressed or open wide. Then there are the physical, sensual thrills, like bondage and spanking. For some folks, they're the perfect thing to spice up already great sex. For others, the whole BDSM spectrum is a way to connect with a partner by exploring the most intimate territories possible. 

That's what makes it such a great topic for a romance novel. In Slow Surrender, the first book in my Struck by Lightning trilogy, I made my heroine new to BDSM. It's her first time trying anything like it. But instead of being shy and "perils of Pauline" about it, Karina likes the taste she gets and goes back for second and third helpings at the sensual buffet. Seems to me that's more what I see in real life. Karina discovers a world where consent is not only a buzzword, it means everything. And it means her partner will actually listen to her needs and then use that knowledge to the fullest. 

BDSM is a bit like Mexican food. To some it seems strange and exotic. Why would you put hot peppers into food? Don't they hurt? To others, it's something that's everywhere these days, take it or leave it. In Karina's case it's like she finally tries a taco and decides there's no going back to bland sandwiches again. In book 2, Slow Seduction, she discovers that what makes the taco special, though, isn't the taco itself, but the man who makes it. Karina finds it's not BDSM alone that lights up her life, but the chef who has trained her palate, James. 

Unlike Christian and Ana, my Karina and James explore kink and bondage more and more as they grow closer together. My hope is that readers, even if they don't ever go out and try BDSM in real life, will feel like that makes sense. BDSM is about trust. The next step for Karina and James, when book 3 comes out in August 2014, will be to trust each other completely and utterly. To me, that's what's romantic. 

BOOK BLURB:
 

SLOW SEDUCTION: Now available in paperback, ebook, and audiobook!

Unforgettable passion . . .

Two months have passed since Karina's painful departure from James, the mysterious lover who awakened her darkest desires, and she'll do anything-anything-to locate him and win him back. Her search takes her to London, where she finds herself immersed in the world of fine art and forbidden pleasures. And soon, Karina meets another enigmatic man who promises to help her find James . . . for a price.

Unexpected pleasure . . . 

Damon George is rich, gorgeous, and a member of a secret society that caters to the sensual thrills of the wealthy and powerful. Though Karina insists her heart will always belong to James, Damon is determined to have her, body and soul. By the time she finds James, Karina has been "trained" to please another. Will James reject her again ... or find her more irresistible than ever? 

Cecilia Tan is "simply one of the most important writers, editors, and innovators in contemporary American erotic literature," according to Susie Bright. Tan is the author of many books, including the ground-breaking erotic short story collections Black Feathers(HarperCollins), White Flames (Running Press), and Edge Plays (Circlet Press), and the erotic romances Slow Surrender (Hachette/Forever), Mind Games (Ravenous Romance), The Prince's Boy (Circlet Press), The Hot Streak, and the Magic Universityseries (Red Silk/Ravenous). Her short stories have appeared in Ms. Magazine, Nerve, Best American Erotica, Asimov's Science Fiction, and tons of other places. She was nominated for the Lifetime Achievement award by RT Magazine in Erotica in November 2013 (and will find out in May 2014 whether she wins or not). She was inducted into the Saints & Sinners Hall of Fame for GLBT writers in 2010, was a recipient of the Lifetime Achievement Award from the National Leather Association in 2001, and won the inaugural Rose & Bay Awards for crowdfunded fiction in 2010 for Daron's Guitar Chronicles. She lives in the Boston area with her lifelong partner corwin and three cats.

LINKS:

Read an Excerpt: http://blog.ceciliatan.com/?page_id=1173#slowseduc

Purchase from Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00CO7FO4Y/

Barnes & Noble: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/slow-seduction-cecilia-tan/1115250967?ean=9781455529247

Independent Booksellers: http://www.indiebound.org/book/9781455529254

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Book 1 in the Severine Series

by Jaden Sinclair

 

The year is 9045 and the Nations control almost everything in the universe. They have brought order to many planets and cultivated others, but behind closed doors they’ve raided and pillaged the planet’s resources for their own gain. She is one of the many children who have been ripped from their home for their selfish cause. Trained at a young age, she was developed into just what the Nations hoped to accomplish. A perfect weapon. But when control is lost and the weapon goes rogue, the Nations learn firsthand just what they’ve created and just what their weapon will do for her freedom and for a family she can never forget. He is sent to find her. Another trained and burned by the Nations, Byron Suthland is hired to find the weapon, only he doesn’t want to find her for them. He wants to find her for himself and bring back a woman, not a weapon. Knowing she can kill him instantly means nothing, but caring about her means everything.

Severine!

Content Warning: Intended for 18+ Audience, may contain explicit details or scenes

 

Excerpt

“And where are you going to go?”

“Home.”

“Do you even know where home is?”

“No, but you do and you’re going to be kind enough to give me the information.”

“It isn’t that easy.” She lost her temper and walked right up to him, bringing the gun she had tucked behind her right out. He didn’t fight her when she put her hand up to his throat, shoving him back against the wall, her gun now pressed right between his eyes.

“What are you going to do, Severine?” Byron asked.

“Shoot me?”

“If I have to.”

“Then what kind of information will you get?” They had a kind of standoff. Both refusing to back down or look away. However, Byron made a move, one she wasn’t expecting. His hand came up slowly, his body didn’t move. With the back of his hand, knuckles only, he touched the side of her face. Severine moved back.

“What are you doing?” She frowned at him.

“Something I think hasn’t been done to you in a very long time.”

“Don’t do that.” His hand went back to her ear and into her hair.

“But I want to do this.” When his face began to lower down to hers and both of his hands moved to her waist, Severine changed the position of the gun. She now pressed it up under his chin.

“I can shoot you and keep you alive.” His face was mere inches from her own, lips so close she could feel his breath upon her own.

“And I think this will be well worth getting shot.” They touched. His lips touched her own gently, softly. She had never been kissed before. The only type of touching she’d been subjected to had always resulted in pain of some kind. Yet this wasn’t painful, but it confused her none the less. He didn’t do much of anything else either. In fact, if she wasn’t mistaken, she thought he was trying to show her how to kiss.

Why she let this happen, she couldn’t answer. But Severine did give in mostly due to her curiosity. She wanted to know what this felt like. What it was like to be held by another and not made to suffer for it. However, before anything more could go on, the gun she held under his chin was taken from her hand and the light kissing simply stopped. He pulled back enough to look her once more in the eye, one arm still around her.

Keeping eye contact with her, Byron uncocked the gun, let it drop with his finger still on the trigger so it would flip butt first back to her.

“I’m not going to hurt you, Severine. Ever. And I will help you find what you need, but not with a gun at my head. Next time, just say please.” She took the gun from his hand, he let her go, and moved around her toward the steps, taking them two at a time up, leaving her right where she stood.

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Jaden Sinclair lives in a small town in Kansas with her husband of eighteen years, two boys and a few pets that keep her hopping. Between sports and the animals it’s a wonder at times how she is able to keep the flow of her writing going. But she does. She has many series in the works and out for your enjoyment, and most known for the Shifter series. Between werewolves, vampires, scifi, new worlds or simple romances, one never really knows what will come out next. So to keep up with what she doing, visit her website: www.jadensinclair.com just simply email her at jadensinclair@gmail.com. She’ll love to hear from you. Jaden Sinclair

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